How Travel Helped Heal My Broken Heart

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Everyone at some point in their lives is bound to go through a breakup and end up feeling heartbroken and unhappy. To all those who never will/have, I envy you! But for those who do get their heart broken, it can be such a debilitating feeling that can affect every aspect of your life.

Personally, I went through a very tough breakup a few years ago, separating from my boyfriend of just under 2 years. Unfortunately I was one of those people who gave my absolute everything to that relationship, and ended up being manipulated and psychologically abused by him. After we broke up I suffered from depression and was in a really bad place. After about 3 months I managed to keep my head above water and begin rebuilding myself and my life. 

It might sound a bit cliché, but one of the things that really helped get me through this tough time was travelling. Nothing elaborate to start with, just a few day trips, then weekends away, and after a while a week vacation to Uluru followed by 2 weeks in Vanuatu later that year. 

I always say how amazing travelling is for you as a person, as it helps you to grow and learn about yourself and the world around you. I found that by taking time out to travel I was able to re-learn about who I was and what I wanted from life, and had the opportunity to meet new people and rebuild the trust that I had lost with people in my life.

One of the key things I learned whilst travelling was how to be alone and how to actually enjoy it. When you did have a partner you can become completely tied up in your joint world, and separating from them can actually be a huge change and crumble the world you built together. Often when we travel there are times we have to be alone and it was these times that I got to explore me and what I liked. I got to go off on my own adventures or sit around and read in the sunshine. I found it easier to be alone and needed people around me a lot less. I will always be forever thankful to those select few who stuck by me and supported me when I needed them 200% of the time, but travelling gave me the chance to let loose and prove that I could do it alone.

Another thing I took from travelling during this time was that memories can be a weight that forces you to stay stuck in an historic time. Remembering the trips you'd take together, the places you'd eat out and the things you'd do, if you cling on to those memories and don't try to make new ones it's impossible to set yourself free. Even just a weekend away with the girls meant I had new memories to reminisce on and could begin to build up my happiness and enthusiasm for life again.

It might not work for everyone, but for me travel has a huge influence on helping me recover. If you are going through a tough time be sure to reach out and seek help when you need it. As they say, when one door closes another one opens, so take the pen and begin writing the next chapter of your life, wherever that might be and with whomever you so decide!

Erica xx

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